[colombiangirl1]

A crash course, in self-reliance. My mom, decided to give me the money for my license. She is sending the check, today. So, I'm expecting it to be in my mailbox by, at the latest, Thursday. I have that day off from work, so, I think, I'll be able to go that day, and, get everything taken care of. If all goes as planned, I should be driving my own car, by this weekend. I'm so excited!! No more depending on my ex for rides!! That, is so cool!! And, the cash flow, from me to him is going to dry up now that I don't need him for anything, anymore. He's about to find out, just how much, I did for him. It's gonna be great. He's gonna be in a whole world of hurt!! Not that, I want revenge, or anything, it's just gonna make a very powerful point to him. This, has been such a long time coming. And, it may be wrong of me, but, I know that, I'm going to enjoy every minute of it!!

Peace, and Love,
Cgirl

[DM]

Way to go Cgirl!!!! You show em!!!

Independence is wonderful and you sound so ready to make that leap.

Good luck on getting your license.....

[SeamsLikeStitches]

You know the first night will be sweet, but the second night will be tough. It's that silence after the storm that is hard to deal with. Stay strong !

Keep yourself busy the first week or two, keep everyone informed about how you are doing... and it's o.k. to cry! It's good to cry! It's o.k. to miss him! It's NORMAL to miss him! It's NOT normal to miss the drinking and the abuse and the bad stuff. Remember, he is not the sweet wonderful guy that you wish he was, he is the guy that takes advantage of you now and doesn't care that you have to sit at work for two hours and wait for him to pick you up, or walk home even after you gave him gas money to pick you up... and then he yells at you anyway when you complain about it....

It's HARD to be alone... but it gets easier! This is when you call ALL your girlfriends, you email all your buddies, and you bore all of us with all the things in your life. You can personally email all of us any time you want and we will email you back! We will all be here help you through this. MANY of us have been through this and we understand how hard it is. We will be here for you! We will listen, and let you cry on our screens!

Keep talking to us!

[Darlene]

That is great news. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Darlene

[theoneRogue420]

WTG CGirl!! I'm so glad to hear that you are about to get your driver's license... but what about your independence? It says nothing in your post about kicking him to the curb. I'm sure hoping you don't think you can let him stay there while you rub his nose in your new status... that will be very dangerous for you, hon!

Please tell me I misread that. All the other people who posted seem to think it does mean he's going to be out of there. But I'm afraid it is just wishful thinking on their part. Tell us you ARE making him leave? Please?!?

[Jomar]

Congratulations the first step of independence- you can do it

[colombiangirl1]

not, making him move out. I don't really, want to live here all alone. I need company. We do get along, the majority of the time. And, he's not really violent towards me. Not, usually. I know, that sounds weak, but, really, where there has been violence, it hasn't been anything serious. And, most times, it's been on both our parts. He pushes me, I push back. Literally. That's about it. I know, that sounds really bad, but, these incidences are far and few between. I don't forsee them happening anymore. My frustration level is about to plummet, with him. I no longer NEED him, to survive. And, we both, know this. Everything's alright. Really. Thanks, everyone, for the concern.

Peace, and, Love,
Cgirl