[Gazelle]

How do you stop the negative thoughts in your head?

"Shut up" doesn't work.

[who moi]

Originally Posted by Gazelle

How do you stop the negative thoughts in your head?

"Shut up" doesn't work.

oy, gauze pad...or is it gastastic...

but seriously...

first of all ((((BIG HUGS))))

For me, it is not to stop it, it is to ride it out...

but how we ride it out is the key...

are we riding it at 85mph or are we riding it at 25mph...

are we riding it out with chips and salsa, or are we riding it out with vinegar and limberger cheese?

for me, it helps to post...I post the thoughts like fluid that it is in my head...not worrying about spellings nor grammars nor whatever...just letting it out...(edit later)

let the bad thoughts become fluid and let it ride out of your system...

and while that is happening, don't forget that you have friends that will sit next to you in this great big water ride and hold your hands...

Let US help you ride it out...

that is a $1,000,000.00 bar question that you've asked...if anyone ever finds the answers...well, there they go a million bucks right in their pockets...

glad you are talking here, sista...keep talking to us, K?

((((BIG HUGS))))

[who moi]

don't forget...you're never as alone as you think...

[Twinkletoes]

The only way to stop them is to replace them.

Maybe open a photo album and get lost in it?

I tomorrow is better for you. Get to bed early tonight!

[janlici]

Originally Posted by Gazelle

How do you stop the negative thoughts in your head?

"Shut up" doesn't work.

What's wrong, sweetie? Season got to you? The MS? Life in general? Talk to me! xo J.

[mistiis]

...don't be afraid of them. Watch them, re-direct them...TALK about them to someone. Here, or pm, but get them acknowledged, and then work through them. I like to think of the mind, emotion, intellect, thoughts, as a kind of inner landscape. You can look at the landscape. You can go in and work in it. You can change things around in it. You can invite friends into it. I hope this helps ((((hugs)))) We don't seem to have a problem sharing the beauty, but it is much harder to share the pain. And, yet, so much more important. Because, pain, once walked through can leave a gift of peace.

[DMACK]

Hi Gazelle

Negative thoughts are a pain in the ***** aren't they, we all get them.

The key to them is to remember they are part of you....its part of your FIGHT or FLIGHT self defence mechanism...the sad thing is though when they arrive they pull you down, fog your thinking..and cover your head with a blooming big black cloud.

I look at like this ...with every positive there's a negative...and vice-verse.

Therefore whatever your negative thoughts are try to turn them around to positive...blooming hard but entirely possible.

Currently i have been experiencing [-] thoughts about my job...my solution apply for 6 other jobs.[+]

Whilst i wait replies I'm quite happy getting on with my current job.

another thing i find helpful is to find ME-TIME ....pamper yourself a little ..treat yourself to something nice... be kind on yourself don't expect to much of yourself...+ stop beating yourself up.....

WHEN YOU DO POSITIVE THINGS negativity evaporates............good luck

David
read below/take note.

[sabimax]

HUGSSSSSSSSSSSS

what a good idea, find a positive to turn it upside down...like the photo album...or slowing down and taking a peek at nature...

HUGSSSSSSSSS<sarah

[Lara]

Oh gosh. Negative thoughts. That's a complex issue indeed.

My main concern is what you really mean. Is there anything we can do to help you in anyway here from the forum?

I figure they're not unusual but sometimes some of us get sorta "stuck". I'm one of them. Runs in my family. I could answer that "it's genetic", but that's far too simple an answer and that's not true for everyone anyway.

I think it all depends on so many factors, Gazelle, so it's very difficult to answer your question. Sometimes our 'self-talk' gets a little wayward and it's not so easy to reign it back in. I'm reminded of the book "THE IMP OF THE MIND" [perfect title too]. It's all about dealing with negative thoughts but ones that are more of an obsessive nature. I know not all negative thoughts have that element.

I think if the negative thoughts become overwhelming and daily life is changing to the extent that the negative thoughts affect our actual quality of life then it's a really good idea to talk with a professional about what's going on. There are many reasons for getting "stuck" and having these negative thoughts rule our lives. The real trick is to not let them, but that my friend is much easier said than done. Anxiety (for whatever reason) can also hinder our thought processes and present as really negative thoughts.

Once we allow the thoughts to affect our physical bodies it can become more of a trap. It's best to get on top of them el pronto - [in my own humble opinion.] A lot depends on the severity and how these thoughts are affecting our lives and where the thoughts have originated. Sometimes it takes something which might seem so insignificent. Other times it's sooooo traumatic an event that has triggered these thoughts. Some we can deal with ourselves and some we honestly need professional help to eleviate.

I wish I understood more about what you are asking, Gazelle. It's not always easy, but you can ride it out as Who Moi has written. He knows! I know. Others here know. It can be with those chips and salsa but it can also be with aged Kim Chee.

Self talk is great. Telling ourselves to "Shut up" will rarely work. I wish it would work but it doesn't. Changing thought processes can work though but sometimes we need to RELEARN how to think. Much goes back to childhood and this relearning can be helped by particular professionals. It all depends on so many factors.

Sorry to prattle on so much but this is such an important question.

I hope you're ok out there...

How do you stop the negative thoughts in your head?

"Shut up" doesn't work.

EDITED TO ADD: I logged off to go but remembered something. Our old mate PTer knew all about that "imp of the mind"!

[Nik-key]

((Gazell)) I am glad you asked this question. I hope you come back and check in with us

For all of you who have answered.... is that fog, or darkness you explain, could this be the same thing I am trying to express? I can't explain it, I am going along with my struggle, over my loss of Dad, and daily loss of Lynn..snow and nightmares.. etc.............. I am doing pretty well. I can see laughter and joy despite the grief and pain............

And then bam, I am where I am now................ I feel like I have the worst hang over, yet I have had nothing to drink. I want to read the post, but I find I can't. I want to be happy, but I can't. Whatever it is, I don't like it one damn bit.