[hippiechick]

I haven't been around in awhile; baaaaaaaad days for the past couple of weeks. And, really, nothing to say that compares to anything else here. I'm going to the neuro on Friday, probably for the last time.

Hubby's dad, my dear, dear fil, is dying. On Saturday his kidneys were operating at 30% capacity and today he's down to 10%.....he's not eligible for dialysis now. And, on top of it, he has an aneurysm - what all of his brothers and his sister and mother died from. He's the last of his family. This is devastating to all of us. He's been my dad for all these years - hubby's the oldest in the family and he's just always been here for us. Even after my mil died 10 years ago - he thought he'd go so soon after and we've all taken turns just spending time with him. I can't imagine life without him.

And then that brings up the whole "son" thing.....hubby says that we are NOT calling him when dad dies. And I guess I can see his point...he's made it very clear that he wants nothing to do with us, but that just seems so wrong. I mean, I don't want him at MY funeral, but at his grandpa's??? I can't stand all of this stress. It makes my brain feel like it's having a million electric shocks and, because of that, I can't walk. Oh, I wish I could just stop this. I do not cry but right now it seems that I can't stop.

[BlueMajo]

Oh, my thought are prayers are with you now.

[Twinkletoes]

I'm so sorry, hippiechick.

I pray for peace and comfort to be with you and your family at this most difficult of times.

[Koala77]

I'm so sorry to read about your FIL hippiechick. Please know that he, you and the rest of your family will be in my prayers.

It's awful when families are divided, but during illness and probably more so when death may be eminent, I think the divisions are harder to bear. Please know that I speak from experience.

Had some-one in a different state not read about my brother's death in the newspaper last year, I'd probably never have known that he'd passed, and that hurt!

I dare say you are much too close to your hubby emotionally to get him to change is mind about letting his son know about his grandfather's condition now, when your husband is so worried about his dad, but if there's anyone else who might convince him..... then maybe it's worth a try to get them to talk to your hubby.

I don't know your family dynamics but I do know how I felt when I accidently found out about my brother' death, and I assure you that wasn't very nice.

With that in mind, I can imagine how a grandson might feel finding out too late that his grand father had died.

[DMACK]

(((((Hipiechick)))))))



David

[tamiloo]

Oh, my dear...hope all goes well...so sorry...

[Alffe]

Originally Posted by hippiechick

I haven't been around in awhile; baaaaaaaad days for the past couple of weeks. And, really, nothing to say that compares to anything else here. I'm going to the neuro on Friday, probably for the last time.

Hubby's dad, my dear, dear fil, is dying. On Saturday his kidneys were operating at 30% capacity and today he's down to 10%.....he's not eligible for dialysis now. And, on top of it, he has an aneurysm - what all of his brothers and his sister and mother died from. He's the last of his family. This is devastating to all of us. He's been my dad for all these years - hubby's the oldest in the family and he's just always been here for us. Even after my mil died 10 years ago - he thought he'd go so soon after and we've all taken turns just spending time with him. I can't imagine life without him.

And then that brings up the whole "son" thing.....hubby says that we are NOT calling him when dad dies. And I guess I can see his point...he's made it very clear that he wants nothing to do with us, but that just seems so wrong. I mean, I don't want him at MY funeral, but at his grandpa's??? I can't stand all of this stress. It makes my brain feel like it's having a million electric shocks and, because of that, I can't walk. Oh, I wish I could just stop this. I do not cry but right now it seems that I can't stop.

This is one of those posts that I cannot bring myself to hit the thanks button. I'm so sorry that on top of everything else you are going through, now you have to endure the loss of one so dear to you. I wish there was something, anything that we could say or do to help you through this Hippie. Please remember that we care and that you are much loved.

[Doody]

(((Hippiechick)))

[Nik-key]

((Chicky)) Hi sweetie You brought me out of lurking
I am so very sorry to hear about your dear FIL. I can only imagine how difficult this must be on you and your family. You are all in my thoughts and prayers

I wish I had some wose words to share with you about your son. I can't imagine trying to handle the stress of just that alone. So hard, and so sorry you are going through so much. Keep coming back.. talking helps, plus I have missed you!!! Much love, Nikki

[Spanish Moss]

((((Hippiechick))))) So sorry for this difficult time - tough choices to make.
Our prayers are with you...