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Old 09-06-2015, 11:00 PM #21
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Sorry don't understand fixed what?
Hi Dancing Lady,

A post was made in response to your thread but accidentally had the wrong salutation. The poster changed it to address YOU. That was what was "fixed".
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Hi Dancing Lady,

A post was made in response to your thread but accidentally had the wrong salutation. The poster changed it to address YOU. That was what was "fixed".
Oh makes sense.
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lt warms my heart to read all the wonderful supportive responses to dancinglady. That is what this forum is all about! Thank you all!
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If I read any more negative, depressing, non-success, nothing a person can to fix or stop this problem in its tracks, hopeless posts on this forum I am going to start thinking about ending it. Everyone on the neuropathy forum talks about their pain, suffering, hopelessness, struggle. I am assuming that people who have successfully managed their illness have left the site. Everyday one more post talks about progression. One more post talks about not being able to control anything about the disease effectively. It sounds like I am in the very early stages and in a couple of months I won't be able to move and will be in so much pain I will suffer endlessly with no hope of relief. If this is my future there will be none. The reason I am posting here is because the moderators said that if I post anything about suicide it has to be here. HELP. Does anyone have a success story of getting better or is this just the start to my end. As one poster put it "self delivery". I am hoping the people on the site are the few not the majority of neuropathy sufferers. I guess people have their reasons why they want to stay alive with all of this horrible pain. I do not.
Depends on the individual and their neuropathy. Many have it and it progresses little over many years. That's not usually the folk here and in my research you are correct. Us with severe neuropathy don't often get better. I'm about where you are. I'm pretty certain that I'll be in the extreme pain group soon. I have no desire to live like that. That's just the way it goes.

I look at things this way. I'm mortal and I shall die from something no matter what. So by choosing the time of my own death I'm really not doing much to alter where I'm going anyway, just the timing. And I'd not do it at all if I wasn't in a body being tortured physically. I see no reason to consider that a life.
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Question Can we know what lies ahead in daily life?

A warm hello to all.

I feel this discussion as very worthwhile, very important.

The bottom line is: These decisions to go on further and to see what happens, or to not go on any further, are very individual choices.

I honestly do not know it's possible for us to accurately predict the future.

Researchers had told me to go to pick out a powered wheelchair 28 years ago.
I had refused to do so. They were shocked by my refusal. I had even been referred to a psychiatrist because the doctors had felt I was in deep denial. It was their opinion I would not be walking at all within 6-12 months.

I was told, yet again, to go immediately to pick out a powered wheelchair, by a totally different set of researchers, ten years ago. I had again refused to do so. I had gotten quite a lecture about my "non-compliance" and my "denial" about the seriousness of my medical conditions. One researcher became very upset with my "non-compliance" in securing a powered wheelchair. I am sure he was concerned for me. He became quite loud and had said, "I don't know that you will be walking at all within the next 6 months." I had replied, "With all due respect, we honestly do not know that about you, about me, or about anyone else in this room today." (Two interns had privately thanked me after the meeting.)

In truth, if I had needed a powered wheelchair at any point, I would have had to order one to go anywhere.

This isn't about denial or non-compliance, it's about not allowing others' (including the experts') predictions/expectations (nor research statistics) to pre-determine my present day experience and/or my future.

If/when I truly need a powered wheel chair, I will then look into obtaining one.
(In truth, I am getting closer to having to think about this now, 28 years later.)

I now intermittently use one crutch, when I need assistance walking.
I use a wheelchair in airports (and/or in very large hospitals) when I cannot otherwise cover the distance or make my flight connection on time when in an exacerbation of pain/limitations.

My DH had asked me if I might want to start looking at powered mobility aids earlier this summer. He had a very serious look on his face as he brought me some of his research on various products. I had thanked him and told him I would review his research and would make a list of what I perceive to be viable options. We sat down to discuss this two evenings later. I thanked him for his concern and for his efforts. I then showed him my list. I had included a variety of options, contingent upon on the budget. I had found some very nice options locally: a customized Harley, a very sharp BMW, an awesome Honda Shadow (low-rider just like the one I used to have) and a Cam-Am Spyder. And so it goes.

Honestly, I will deal with adding to my mobility aids if/when I truly need to do so.

I have had 5 friends diagnosed with ALS. Two were misdiagnosed. Three were accurately diagnosed. One of these three followed the rapid progression type of course. The other two, 6 and 8 years later are living life with some effects upon them, yet still work, etc. All five were told they had approximately 3 years to live. Those expectations were erroneous for 4 out of 5 in this one account, and erroneous for 2 of the 3 properly/accurately diagnosed.

My point: I honestly do not think we (nor anyone else) can 100% accurately predict our individual futures.


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P.S. I have had many awesome years of a deeply enriched life over the past 30+ years of medical disability. I had married 10 years into these challenges. Life was not over for me, despite what I was told by the "experts." Life had drastically changed, for sure. In some ways, life had just begun. It's been a very real and a demanding challenge much of the time. I have felt like quitting at times. Yet, I have also grown in so many ways. I do not know how this will turn out. I try to stay focused on the "Present Moment." In the end, I know I have done my best and that's truly the most each of us can do.
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Depends on the individual and their neuropathy. Many have it and it progresses little over many years. That's not usually the folk here and in my research you are correct. Us with severe neuropathy don't often get better. I'm about where you are. I'm pretty certain that I'll be in the extreme pain group soon. I have no desire to live like that. That's just the way it goes.

I look at things this way. I'm mortal and I shall die from something no matter what. So by choosing the time of my own death I'm really not doing much to alter where I'm going anyway, just the timing. And I'd not do it at all if I wasn't in a body being tortured physically. I see no reason to consider that a life.

Sometimes the thought of one choosing their own time; when it is not; can change what you might have been able to do or be there for someone in need.

Yes, I have had days when fleeting thoughts of being tired of all of this enter my mind; but then something that I may have said or done that has really made someone's day; especially friends and family make me feel good about myself and know I am here for a purpose.

Also, I would be selfish should I be the cause of anyone possibly feeling guilt that there could have been something they said or did to cause such a choice.

Quality of life is different for all of us. Often our thoughts can pull us down or bring us "up".

Sending positive thoughts.


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Sometimes the thought of one choosing their own time; when it is not; can change what you might have been able to do or be there for someone in need.

Yes, I have had days when fleeting thoughts of being tired of all of this enter my mind; but then something that I may have said or done that has really made someone's day; especially friends and family make me feel good about myself and know I am here for a purpose.

Also, I would be selfish should I be the cause of anyone possibly feeling guilt that there could have been something they said or did to cause such a choice.

Quality of life is different for all of us. Often our thoughts can pull us down or bring us "up".



Sending positive thoughts.


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Well to each their own. For myself once I start living for others at my expense I've become nothing but a prop for their lives while I lose my own. Not my path but I have no issue with others choosing it.
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Well to each their own. For myself once I start living for others at my expense I've become nothing but a prop for their lives while I lose my own. Not my path but I have no issue with others choosing it.


Very interesting thought. I guess either way, you would lose your own.
Thanks for your input.

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Keepin on keepin on. I must focus on one step, one day, one feeling that I matter and make a difference. We are community. together we make a difference.......
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If I read any more negative, depressing, non-success, nothing a person can to fix or stop this problem in its tracks, hopeless posts on this forum I am going to start thinking about ending it. Everyone on the neuropathy forum talks about their pain, suffering, hopelessness, struggle. I am assuming that people who have successfully managed their illness have left the site. Everyday one more post talks about progression. One more post talks about not being able to control anything about the disease effectively. It sounds like I am in the very early stages and in a couple of months I won't be able to move and will be in so much pain I will suffer endlessly with no hope of relief. If this is my future there will be none. The reason I am posting here is because the moderators said that if I post anything about suicide it has to be here. HELP. Does anyone have a success story of getting better or is this just the start to my end. As one poster put it "self delivery". I am hoping the people on the site are the few not the majority of neuropathy sufferers. I guess people have their reasons why they want to stay alive with all of this horrible pain. I do not.
I posted earlier this evening on your other thread that I would remain silent hence forth but I have changed my mind after giving it some thought and re-reading the post you made when I first responded about a month ago.

Based on THIS post, would you mind sharing something with us about your neuropathic diagnosis, symptoms, and pain?

I respect your privacy and if you wish not to respond, I will certainly understand.

There is a BIG difference between diabetic neuropathy prognosis and the prognosis of PN from other causes and also of an idiopathic nature.

Many people here have idiopathic neuropathies, some from chemo, some from other drug induced causes. The types and causes of peripheral neuropathy are vast.

If someone has "diabetic" neuropathy, the prognosis is usually much better and the symptoms and pain greatly reduced by good control of blood sugar levels. Many have lessened their symptoms and even reversed the nerve damage.

If you have been diagnosed with "diabetic" neuropathy, your prognosis may be very good with proper medical treatment.

Do you know the cause of your PN? Are you diabetic? Are you levels under control? How long ago were you diagnosed? How long have you been experiencing symptoms? What are your symptoms? What body parts are affected?

Again, if you wish to keep this information private, I totally respect that.

We may be able to help with your PN pain based upon your response.
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