Cindy is a very wise person regardless of how much she says she isn't. As Kay says, once you meet her, you know how much instantly!

Michael, you have said so much in your post that hit home. My dad also had RA and would not let anyone help him. He was as stubborn as I am and also taught me a lot about when not to ask for help and when to be sick and let someone else help you. I spent the last 2 weeks of his life sitting by his bedside. That was the best (and worst) 2 weeks of my life.

Thank you for the reminder, both you and Cindy.