Welcome, pono! How I wish I could give you a hug. You've had more than your share of problems! jo55 has given you some good links. Have you found the traumatic brain injury and post concussion syndrom forum? http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=92
Others that might help you are the chronic pain forum: http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=10
And with all that you are going through it would not be at all surprising for you to maybe need the depression forum: http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=37
I wanted to post these links for you to make it a little easier for you to navigate around the site. Hope this helps some.
Hugs,