Oh we have something in common! Temperature! That is crazy, that is one of my biggest concerns. I HATE to be hot, I have been hot at there house here because of the pellet stove. I have a clock that has the temperature.
My therapists are helping me w retirement. It is hard, it is all I have ever wanted to do (serve as Marine) perfect place for someone who is intense like me. It was the perfect fit for me prior to my injury. My whole family has served, Navy, Army and I chose the Marines.
There is a laundry room upstairs and down too (yeah!) but you are right, the kitchen the fridge space ( I think I will bring my own fridge for all of my veggies and fruit for smoothies). It doesn't have to be permanent. I want to keep everything the movers pack up for me packed up. Which means I will not have access to all of my things, that also means a lot of planning. My mom told me to bring some of my things to put about the house so I feel more at home. I told her thanks, but I don't want to intermingle. I want to make my space my utopia.
I will take all of my plants, yoga stuff, sewing stuff, books, and kayak, running/exercise stuff. Oh yeah, recipes too.
I really like what you said about the stimulation going on inside of me and that more it too much. Sometimes I get ****** when people stop me to exchange hello's and chat to me in the neighborhood, sometimes it is ok. Besides they don't understand and I am certain they think I am a crabby patty. I don't care anymore. I gotta remember that this is my life and I have to do what is best for me.
I have to drive to the hospital to get Orthodics this am. They open at 0800, I will get there at 0600 so I don't have to deal w traffic. Does traffic bother you?
I am excited to be rural so very excited. Thanks for your post.
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Originally Posted by Mari
HI, TBI/PTSD,
Those are big changes.
Do you have a therapist helping you with how you feel about your retirement next month?
Rural will be good because you will have fewer people around. However, you end up getting closer to them and knowing more about each other. There is good and bad in rural but you can make it work for you.
I imagine that moving in with parents (even though you will have your own floor) is causing consternation even though you are looking forward to it.
I have one big issue with staying with my parents.
Inside temperature:
They keep their inside temperature hot in the summer and cold in the winter. Their temps are so far off mine that I cannot visit them. They visit my husband and me once a year and stay in a nearby hotel for a few days -- they would rather get on a plane to come here than adjust their thermostat.
Other things with them like noise level or sleep times or keeping the kitchen clean or sharing the washing machine are manageable and reasonable.
I used do those things you mentioned like agree to do something with someone and then need to back out of it. I am getting better (not perfect yet) about reminding myself that I should never offer and try to never accept. It is hard to do that because it is a reminder of a limited life.
I suppose one can look at this kind of life as not really limited. We are busy in our heads and I think we have a humongous amount of stimulation going on compared to what other people have -- our inner lives are so big that we do not need to meet or plan activities with other people.
My old therapist reminded me constantly to limit stress and I think that she might have been talking about that. She wanted me to do more "breath work" as she called it and that was really the only work she gave me along with acceptance and remembering to eliminate as much as possible in order to be stress free. She included in that suggestions on keeping my living space clean and clutter free.
Your yoga and exercise is good.
Do your parents have a place for you to garden?
Mari
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