Erika I think you are right - my man (an ex-policeman of 23 years) went through a huge bout of PTSD and major depression that caused him to leave the force. It was a very dark time for him. That gave me the opportunity to be the 'caregiver' rather than the 'cared-for' while he healed and reinvented himself and made a new career.

That's a pretty drastic example, but I think it is way too easy to get caught up in stuff and making our loved ones feel needed, important, special and attractive, and letting them know that we are there for them too, is a vitally important part of it all.

Pretty hard when it is all new though. Especially when there is so much stuff happening to us, but maybe a romantic dinner, or if you can manage it, some time to yourselves is a good idea?