I just want to back up what Chemar has said in regards to respecting the choices, decisions, and practices of all here...even though they're different in comparison to our own.

Some were hurt, some were upset, some felt panic even. Those are feelings that belong to some even though we might not share them. It doens't mean that they don't exist for several to many.

I agree that discussion is GOOD because we do have many members that frequent both sites. BUT, because we do, we need to be supportive to that in our responses as well as the upset that is still there for many.

One way to help minimize hurt is to use "I statements", not "you" as they feel accusitory and can make others feel defensive. Please don't tell another that their decision, or feelings, are wrong or not justified. Please don't tell another that their choices and perceptions are wrong.

Overall, please remember that there are members here that frequent both sites and try to check your posting for something that might feel attacking to anyone. Talk about your concerns, talk about your fears, talk about your likes or dislikes, talk about your experiences, but please refrain from pointing out another's as wrong or inappropriate because those same things differ from your own.

We're all just doing our best to manage our individual self-care in many ways. We all have that in common. It's a good "base" ground to stand on, yes?

KD