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Originally Posted by Fixmeup11
I told the lady I wanted to come in for a second opinion. JUST a second opinion. These people had the nerve to call me back about 20 minutes later to tell me that while the doctor would see me, he was in NO WAY going to prescribe me anything for pain relief.
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For this part, I would do the same -- brush
them off/ignore them, and go in for your second opinion, and not even bring up the subject of pain meds.
I'm sorry you got brushed off for asking about the possibility of your research. I've been brushed off (as I'm sure many others have) but I usually follow it up with a sincere why/why not question. I'm also curious and involved enough with my doctors that when they do give me a dx/swag, I ask why they think what they do or how they arrived at the dx.
I think it sometimes (not always) comes down to attitude and rapport (not suggesting anything personal -- I'm just rambling in general terms here). IME, doctors don't mind questions, but they get defensive with challenges.
As far as listening, my rheumatologist once commented, and later another specialist said the same thing.... (maybe they read the same article?
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Doctors only hear 25% of what patients tell them (usually because they're going through possibilities in their minds).
Patients only hear 50% of what doctors tell them (usually because they're sick/upset/have no clue what the doctor's saying).
OTOH, sometimes they're really not listening and/or brushing us off. Here's an article about a book on this subject written by a couple of doctors. (I haven't read the book.) There are some tips at the bottom.
When doctors don’t listen and how to get them to
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