July63,

I too am retired military, and a Brain Injury survivor. That alone puts us at great risk for depression and suicidal thoughts. Please contact your Brain Injury assn in your state. There are people that can help. Also, talk to people here. They can give you wonderful support and first hand knowledge of what family members deal with when a loved one chooses to end their life.

You can find a phone number for your local Brain Injury Assn in your phone book. Every state has one. They helped me.

Wishing you the best, and sending gentle hugs and prayers, Dodi