Hi,

Well the good news is that he saw an MD and is on the road to a TBI specialist.
His being kind of clingy and then bitchy (like about the chicken) tells me that he is agitated and irritable.. (I am making a guess. Not an expert of course.)
MDs can knock that out with meds but he might not like the side effects.

The paranoia might be the most disturbing thing for the family members to witness, but most of the time MDs have good drugs for this.

These meds for TBI and bipolar slow down the brain -- that is good and bad. The dulling can make the person feel awful, groggy, and like he has lost his version of his real self . . .
Yet, the drugs can allow the person to pursue a regular life without going around annoying people. And the person can eventually get stable enough to to start thinking about the future.

And be patient because it can happen but it is rare that the doctors get the meds right the first time. Sometimes it can take months (or years) to fine tune the meds.
Counseling is very important during that time because the person learns to develop new (good) coping behaviors and talks to someone helpful about getting used to being on medications.


Do not argue with him. It is not useful. He is sick. If he had a broken leg you would not wonder why he had a hard time climbing up the stairs.
With the patience and care of you and your wife and his doctors, he will get much better.

M