Tony,
I also get a headache from bouncing or vibrating. My heartrate may not increase at all and my breathing be regular, but I still get a headache from bouncing or vibrating. I have not found a cure except accepting the pain afterwards if I want to do the activity enough. If you find an answer let me know!


Horsegal,
First of all you are not silly for asking because you are the one with the courage and there are lots of other people out there without the courage to ask who are wondering the same thing.

I would start walking, just leisurely at first and see how that goes. I have to get out or I get depressed, and you really don't want to do that when there is already this pain and other stuff making you depressed. Indoor rock climbing with ropes is another good one. Low impact, good strength building, you can go as slow as you want.

For the glass of wine, I really don't think it slows the healing process, I think it might actually help because it helps you relax. Not a lot, just a glass with dinner. When I have a glass, I get a worse headache, but despite that I feel more relaxed and less likely to bite someone's head off. After a while it's not the pain that is hard to deal with it's everything else.
I would also say that beer or other alcohol is less likely to give you a headache than wine just from studies I have seen, there is no difference for me.

Good luck to you both!
In Christ,
Margarite