you should go on strike....you are carrying way too much on your shoulders.
just do your own laundry. take care of the litter boxes but don't do as much....
your cats sound so pampered too! you made me feel guilty but i pet mine a lot.
the hot tub sounds super....spend more time in it....nurture yourself and don't be afraid too. go on a food strike also. just make meals for yourself. all this is hard to do but you will eventually collapse under the burden you are carrying if you keep up doing all that you are doing....sorry for coming on so strong.
bobby