I'd say that if you are in it to show the kids love you'll find a way to make it work, and it sounds like you can just get help with some of the logistics.

If you think tos will disrupt major goals in your life though maybe it's time to think about either how you will find solutions to those things or consider checking out the surgery? My thoughts are don't give up your hopes and dreams without a fight.

My biggest fear about having kids is more that I won't be able to get off painkillers while I am still in my thirties. Are you on painkillers and need to consider this at all? It has taken so long to diagnose with such a long recovery and surgeries ahead that I wonder if the biological clock will be on its last stroke by the time a pain managed without medication future arrives (if ever? Banish the thought or be real about the possibility?)

Anyone else out there in this position that can weigh in on this topic?!