Don't fret about it Renee I haven't been upset by anything on this thread, far from it. I think reliable debate and discussion is perfectly possible, even about the most difficult topics, as long as everyone respects each other and doesn't take personal offence...

Hope you have a good day, I know you're having a tough time right now, but don't worry about how we're feeling about something you wrote - you are clearly a good person, and what you think doesn't change that

Bram.