Renee, sorry to be late to the post, glad you're through the worst of the flare. I know how it is to not think rationally or remember coping stategies when that catches you off guard. But when does it give us warning huh?
Your Aunt sounds like she has a heart of gold for you! Give her Love!
I do hear you on those guilt feelings! I wish I had advice on that but I just don't, I just share them.
Honey, like Tessa. I've tried the "Audible" self help meditation listening books and they do help me some what. I listen to them when trying to relax and sleep and change my frame of mind. It's a little bit of a personal preference but I can tell you which ones I like if you want.