KL - I am glad to see you back here. I am sorry that your doc is away. Is no one "covering" for him? When you do see him- please ask about what to do if a serious situation comes up again. I was worried w you about ON.
I don't have children so I can only imagine how disappointing it is to not feel they are there for you. Maybe you could work out something w one of them or a friend. Set a timer and you talk for 10 or 20 minutes- whatever you agree on. Then the other person talks for her 20 minutes. There used to be something that might have been called Co-therapy based on this.
Wish I could help more,
ANN