I too give an ear full if someone poo poos my pain. Today I informed a so called friend that her saying "Oh well we all have aches and pains" Well perhaps if I wore my hardware on the outside it would be appear to the observer that yes, this might be a reason to have some pain. I didn't want a pity party, just a simple yes, I know it must hurt at times. I don't think people learn to accept and have empathy toward another unless they do walk in anothers' shoes. I think that is why this site works so well. No matter what our conditions are, we stick in each others corner the best we can. I wish all of us less pain. ginnie