Perlo,
I'm so sorry. Horrible!
Our stories are somewhat similar.
I have many losses, including a pulled tooth...all for no reason.
I also have what looks like permanent pain.
My dx is Atypical Trigeminal Neuralgia.
Can you take the Valium long term?
Check out a book called " Striking Back!"
Also check out my previous posts.
Wishing you well..... I know this is very hard.