can we hold off asking him if we will become our national spokesperson for all things TOS, at least until he comes out of the anesthesia, i wonder?

because - and i know this will shock some of you - that is where my head wants to go right now...

good thing i don't have dragon speaking naturally, or naturally speaking, or whatever the F it's called. or a man around to set it up for me if i did have it. that would be dangerous. the equipment i mean, not the man (well maybe the man, too!! )

for now i think it would be best for me to simply resist the urge to email this poor young man because i'd probably say too much, or the wrong thing!

i do know having TOS strike you when you're that young is absolutely devastating; i was in my 20's myself when it hit me. i am glad that this was caught, diagnosed and is receiving a proper, timely intervention this early in the game (pardon the pun) in this young man's case.

he is extremely lucky to have a high profile in the world of sports and the access to sports medicine that he enjoys (yes i realize good genes, talent and hard work help, too) which are making it possible for him to get the proper care without having to go through the years and years of misdiagnoses, undertreatment, mistreatment, undermedication (or NO medication), unnecessary surgeries, inappropriate affective mood disorders dx's abounding in our charts and on and on and on....that so may of us TOS's have had to suffer for weeks, if not for months, if not for years.

sadly, some of those affective disorders indeed fit by the time you land in a TOS specialist's office and what has actually been going on is figured out, and usually PDQ i might add!

getting back to the news story about our impossibly cute ballplayer/TOS'er, i love the denial part about his teammates totally thinking he was going to play that next game in the series (in FL, was it?) after his being dx/d w/TOS severe enough for surgical intervention. you can almost hear them "But you'll be there Sat., right, dude? The guys are countin' on ya' now!!!" so little understanding. even less compassion and of course zero empathy for what the poor guy is about to go through...

but we know, don't we. we'll be thinking of him now and all the days through. sounds like an F'ing soap, i know, but it's true! i hope he does wnd his way over here to nuerotalk. that might be useful for his recovery from surgery, if he's open to it, just like everything else. of course we would love it as well. here's hopin'! my experience is that you can't force these things, though and especially someone like this - he must be overwhelmee, getting more bombarde each day with wellmeaning "advice" about what to do's this/that/the other thing's.

too much and i think your brain shuts down. especially if you're in pain. especially if you're in your twenties, trying hard to gain independence from your parents, forge a career, make a lfe, all of it. and a TOS curveball thrown into the middle of all of it?

yikes.

i have so much empathy i'm not going to send him an email. i think it would be cruel. plus i have a way of scaring people off; iv'e been told that more than once.

probably why i sleep alone.

bye for now,
alison

you can see whu, can't you?

alison