Get him a punching bag and hang it in the garage or car port which ever you have. When he starts getting angry and pissy tell him to take it to the bag. That you and your children are not hos verbal or physical punching bags. Also tell him if he does lay a finger on you or them you will beat the tar out of him with a broom. I've already told my husband this and he believed me. I may have a ton of pain all the time but you don't touch my babies physically or verbally. I would make a mad momma grizzly look like a puppy. My husband is angry that he can't help me when I hurt so bad and the drs weren't listening to me. He is now starting to realize that this is our life for the foreseeable future. He tries his hardest to do everything plus work a full time military job. Don't give up hope.