Okay pardon my French but WTF?????? He is ordering you and tell you a 40 year old woman who is perfectly capable to take care of herself NOT to do or go anywhere? If you didn't live so darn far away I would give him a piece of my mind!
Yes he is your husband and I understand his concern for your welfare in crowds but as somone said, you will be surrounded by people your own age or slightly younger (I am 35 so that would include me ). Its not like there will be a mosh pit or people doing to pogo. As you know, the most we will do is stand and jump around dancing! OOOOOOHHHHH! Scary!
As for the guilt trip, screw him. Your son is 25, I think he can handle it. Heck take your son with you! As for overplaying the music, tough cookies! He's a big boy, rough it out pansy!
Now when is this concert and who can you find to go with you?
Sorry Pam....it just jerks my chain when men get all gorilla on women. Besides....this is Def Leppard we are talking about! Doesn't he realize that you have a connection with this band....beyond the songs?