thank you everyone,
I really appreciate your replying to a very scared 26yo.
In london it takes 3-4 months to see an OBGYN, but they are all clueless, which I don't get. If you practice vaginal surgery, how can you NOT know which nerves are there?

anyway, I shall beg for a neuro to see me instead of an OBGYN because at least then they will give me meds.

all the best you guys !!!!