Thanks, you guys. It's just that gnawing thing in my craw.

Chris, yes, it's the greater Asheville area that I've chosen. I agree, the cultural and convenience factors were on my mind. Also the climate. The median income level and education levels are also more to my liking. I like the way rich people live... and I like the way I live when I'm with them.

My dear Gretata, I agree with you entirely about ALF, but the not knowing is making me nuts. I lived alone for 20+ years and loved it; I have every intention of going back to that life one way or another. I'll figure out how to do it, I promise. When my hunter brought it up, it just shocked the snot out of me when I heard myself thinking about it.

Before my mom died I lived in one of those apartments where it's for the elderly and 10% under 62 who are disabled. There were 20 of us against the world! It did get on my nerves that they always watched me and wanted to know everything I was doing, kind of living vicariously, I suppose. I used to bust a gut when they asked me if I "really needed that thing" (my wheelchair). I'd say no, I just wanted to get attention.

Sally, when I win the lottery, your plan is soooo coming to fruition! I've thought it all along. Just build a joint that rocks and has a lot of open air and privacy. A fishing pond will be mandatory along with a trout stream out back (accessible from the custom-designed boardwalk out over the water). The best part will be that I'll own it, so if I don't like you, you can't live there. Cool chicks only!