im about the same age as your husband.and i to am disable vet like him.it was not service related again like him.but just the same a vet ,57 and disable.who cant work and now had no income.but lucky for me i did happen to find a "VA"addministration dept.in my area who were more than helpful.one thing i did learn about them is that all "VA"are not /run the same!! they are run and control different.believe it or not.i went to 3 till i found the right one!!.the 3rd one was the best one and the biggest.they have a wide range of dept.one is legal and they have immediate access to "SSD"...iknow it shocked me to.they helped me a tremendous amount and maybe you to.just keep searching for the right one and let them know what you are going thru..they want to help!..like us here