Hopeful, I hate to pass on invites too but ..as you said, it's more important to feel good for the people you love.

While in Florida my hubby and sons went to all the disney parks. It is the first time in 25 yrs that I did not go. That makes me sad to even remember it. But I knew it would ruin their day to be slowed down by me, and it was way too hot outside for me. I tried to justify going a million ways in my head but my heart knew it was right to skip it...

It sucks missing out on life due to this PN but we make the most of it. I think you are making the best choice by passing on the invite so you feel good for the family.