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Originally Posted by pogo
Yeah, seems to me this isn't the first time you have been not listened to (there was a lot of relationship drama with either the first shunt or a revision unless you never posted to one of the other mailing lists). Trying to *make* someone listen frequently causes them to dig in more, not less. Respecting another person's boundaries is the better response, not otherwise.
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Figures you would say something like that. Negatively judge me before you know all the facts, really smart.
When it comes to simple emotions, I don't 'push the envelope'. But when it comes to someone's physical health, I don't mince words.
In April n' May 2012, she had been telling me about having headaches. I asked her about getting a pregnancy test. She discounted it, and I didn't push it. It turned out she was two months pregnant when I asked her about getting a pregnancy test. That very pregnancy was the cause of her hydrocephalus, nearly killed her.
In Nov.'02, my (ex)fiance was finally diagnosed with NPH as a result of having been physically abused as a child.
In Dec.'05, she slipped on 'black ice' while we were waiting for a bus. For the next eleven months, I fought with the doctors' about her shunt being busted. I finally had to take her to a new neurosurgeon. The moment he saw her scans, he nearly blew a gasket. He said I was right.
You may sit silently by when someone you care about is in medical trouble. I don't sit by and watch like my (ex)wife did, as I had a near-fatal seizure.