Mm, you accuse me of judging you and then turn around with negative speculations of your own about me. I think that says a lot about you.
Dealing with docs who don't listen is a completely different issue, think that is part and parcel of dealing with specialists/humans. Aside from encouraging and supporting your friend, it really isn't something you control. But how you communicate with your friend can leave open doors or cause her to want to close them.