I'm late chiming in as usual, I'm so sorry you're dealing with all that!!
I was white knuckling it & gritting my teeth along with you as I read.

I REALLY don't know how you do it with children still at home! On better days/times it could be a good distraction in a way. But then you can't just say
I've had enough whenever you feel like it.
Please don't try to be supermom and make it simple as possible.

Bram you're such a good writer even in the midst of torture, you should be
our spokesperson!! (Like you need another duty).

Please update us when you can. Thinking of you!