It sounds like that's probably best.

I would have been concerned about you being able to meet all of the requirements of being a representative payee. I know that I've had to cancel quite a few of my own important medical appointments at the last minute because I am unable to get there because of complications with my own disability. I know that I would be unable to commit to being able to take responsibility for arranging for someone else's healthcare needs, even if I could help SOME of the time. I'd have to imagine with disabling depression and anxiety that you couldn't guarantee to be able to perform those duties either. The nature of the beast is that you just can't foresee when your good days or bad days will be.

Best wishes to both of you trying to live with your limitations.