I was being very mean by saying it. I don't like being mean. My mom and dad taught me to be a lady. The bad thing is when I hurt I tuurn into a devil lady. I don't take it out on my boys though. I only take it out on the people that decide they want to be ignorant and stupid. I do have that much control. By my asking him that question I explained completely how much I hurt. Especially during a flare. Some people don't understand unless you put it into terms they can understand. Oh a friend asked me yesterday what my pain feels like. I told her how it felt to me then had her read the symptoms of this disorder. She said oh son of a biscuit eater (yes I changed words to make it nicer). She is having a lot of those symptoms in her back after loosing a game of chicken with a deer a couple years ago. She broke and pulverized some vertebrae. She has had surgery to repair some, and untrap the nerves. So I told her to talk to her Dr about it. They can run some tests to rule out other stuff. I also told her that IF she has it then mine won't react as hers does.