Well before this I have been in therapy for 12 years and I'm 28 so basically my adult life. I have really worked on using my voice and expressing my feelings. There is no right or wrong to feelings there yours and you have a right to feel them. I think for myself when asking for help I have to remind myself that everyone at times needs more support and that is ok and I would do it for someone else. Its the strong person who knows there limits and when needs more asks for it. I think Billye post for me brought up a feeling that is sometimes hard to feel for one self and that is deserving help or things. I can tell in her post she is a care taker and there for others but what about herself. I know if may of us took care of our own needs as we did for others we would be much healthier mental and physical wise.Regardless I think if you hide your feelings,wants,issues it will eat at you and make one feel less then adequate.Its getting past the fear and you can do it but have to face it.