So well said. I struggle trying to understand WHY people will not ever move out of the 'victim' role. Sure we all throw a pity party, none are immune.

They must get some sort of pay-off for playing the victim

An acquaintance once said to me "I am amazed that you are smiling EVERY TIME I see you" My response was, well if I am not smiling, you are not going to see me"

My dear family and close friends have seen me in my bad ways, but its not my public face.

We all have a lot to offer each other in terms of information and support, but its only useful if its tried!!

I am rambling so signing off!!