Chaos, I'm giving you a big hug here....

Your post is as brave and positive as its possible for someone to be in that situation and I think you're amazing. You are giving it all your best shot, making decisions and going for the best you can out of a very harsh hand of cards you've been dealt.

I have no doubt that your family are very lucky to have you helping them out, and I wish you all the very very best with your move and the next phase in your life. You'll do fine because of the kind of person you are

Well done. I'm not trying to be patronising or condescending or anything else like that - I honestly think you have the right attitude to all this. Anybody would feel down after everything that's happened, but you are finding your way through. That takes some guts and you have my respect and admiration every day of the week, and twice on Sundays

Take good care of yourself and keep going. Things will sort out one way or another, and I'm sure your new life will be as challenging and rewarding as anything you've done so far.

Bram.