Eev; I hope for the best possible result for the operation and no "additional" pain to your present condition. I have had my wife from day one and without her I would not be writing this to you. She slept in every hospital room, both rehab hospitals and attended every appointment of mine for several years. She is and always has been my wife my crutch my friend my lover my helpmeet and my nurse. I trust you have the same support. The best way to handle those who are not understanding of your pain is to leave the conversation graciously such as go for a drink of water and never come back. I truly hope things improve for you a hundredfold eev and for your daughter also. Soft gentle hugs and a warm heart from another rsd carrier.