Ditto...

Oh, if only someone had said! It's the other Great Unanswerable Question....

The GUQs are:

1) Why me?
2) What am I going to do now?
3) How am I going to cope with this?
4) Can I deal with this for the rest of my life?
5) But I'm a nice person! Why doesn't this happen to the mean people out there?
6) Why didn't anyone tell me about this before so I could cram more life into the life I had before this?!
7) What's the point now?

Of course, the GUQs do in fact have answers....but they are different for all of us, and they are there deep inside us when we look hard enough.

My answers are:
1) Thank goodness for science. The universe is chaotic. I just got a crappy bit of chaos instead of winning the lottery or finding a £20 note tucked in my book.
2) Different things. Some aren't as good as the originals, and I miss so much, but there are things I can do, and thank goodness I now know to value them while I still can!
3) I get up every morning, just like on Castaway, and I breathe in and out. And I face the day with as positive an attitude as I can. And I just see what happens. Good or bad, I will deal with it.
4) Crumbs. I try not to think about that. But yes, mostly I think I can. Like I have a choice lol
5) See 1) above. I'm not a bad person, there is no reason to any of these things. Which is why none of it makes sense. Which makes sense to me. I find a shrug helps here.
6) Ahhhhhh, maybe they did. It's the kind of thing my grandma used to say on occasion, but being young, fit and healthy, and rushing about anyway, I probably laughed and skipped on, or put a sensible face on and agreed, or said 'but I can't afford it at the moment, I'll do it when I've got more money'... Money. Now there's a thing. But would I really have done those things anyway? Some of them. But not all. The truth is that you can't live your life as if ever day was your last - its just not practical. Ordinary life isn't like that, with a job, and family, and chores and work and life and commitments. There are some things I sooooo wish I'd done, particularly travelling. But I really couldn't afford it then, and then I had children, and life got in the way. Would I really swap my life with those choices for memories of travel? No. I'm glad I met my husband, and I'm glad I had my kids.
7) The point is to live now that I know more about how precious my life is. To spend time with my family and friends and take the opportunities that come my way. To smile and laugh whenever I can, and not to dwell too much on the crap crips stuff.

Bram the Philosopher x