I agree Adalaide, and I do a similar pain thing. The last thing I want to do is talk about the pain....most days...and it's enough for him just to notice that I'm hurting, I don't want to discuss it But sometimes, especially in the early days of dealing with it, I did want to talk about how I was feeling, just because it was all so crummy and scary. I just think that when you are feeling really low and bad about things, talking is much healthier than trying to cope alone. I know that staying quiet and isolating myself just makes me feel even more alone and hopeless. Mind you sometimes I need to be alone to deal with it and move past....but that's rarer for me.

Like you said, we are all very different in how we deal with it all. If only none of us had to learn to cope with it!...ahhhh we wish

Bram.