I can relate to this for sure. I find this with my husband. I have to make an effort to be affectionate and kind of go through the motions, even though I don't feel it, for his sake.

Like remembering to kiss him when he gets home from work or hug him when he's feeling down or hold his hand if we are sitting together on the couch. Those things used to come naturally because I wanted to, not anymore.

And things I used to like, now kind of irritate me. Like he'd put his hand on my back and rub if I was upset, now I can't stand that. Its not comforting, it just makes everything worse. It's ok if he'll just put his hand on me and leave it still, but there's something about the movement that I just can't handle.

I've told him many times about how this now bothers me, but he doesn't seem to get it and continues to do it. I don't know why this changed, but it did.

Same with holding hands, he always wants to move his thumbs around on my hand and I can't stand that either. Just hold still, that I can tolerate!!

Starr