hi HD, geez, 21 is so young to have to be dealing with all this yet how fortunate you have found a partner who has similar issues and understands. my husband used to say, I wish It could be me for awhile instead of you dealing with all these health issues and all I can say is, I would never wish this on anyone, especially someone I love and I am sure your fiancé feels,the same way.

Ms Eva...I certainly understand the invisibility of your health issues and the lack of compassion by some folks. It is frustrating. I do appreciate your reminder to stop beating up on myself for my limitations. I try so hard not to but my husband married a well employed, healthy woman. and now he has me...(..Lord, that sounds awful ) and he just did not sign up for all this. He is a dear and says, I didn't sign up for it either. I wil work on accepting what I can do.....Thanks, D.