Waves,
These are difficult times for you. I am very sorry that you are going through this.
Family money stuff is huge because the battles are really about what happened in childhood or even generations ago.
(Patterns are passed down and play out over lifetimes I noticed.
For example, one group has felt ignored, mistreated, unappreciated --- this applies even if it is not true -- but people feel it as if it is true.)
I am sad that the "really nice" girl turned out not to be a possible friend.
(I know I would be happy to have a friend.)
Lots and lots of hugs.
Stupid question: by any chance have the docs tried cortisone-type treatments? That worked for me once.
http://www.rxlist.com/flonase-drug.htm
M