Yes, they are right at Al anon and anywhere else they say "you can't do it for him." You can influence him, but he has to decide to actually change. There is, imho, nothing more selfish than an alcoholic or drug addict of any kind. I know, I was/am one.

The development of Peripheral Neuropathy is the only thing that has made me stop drinking this long. That is a sad thing to say because I first went to AA and tried other therapies in 2003. I succeeded at nothing until I got PN. That is pretty pathetic.

Take care of yourself and good luck. Millions of people kick addiction, at least in it's active form. He just doesn't want to yet, to be brutally honest.