Skippy,

I didn't hear anything in your post to indicate that you in particular might get her more upset than anybody else or anything else. If her father is called and has to come home, that will happen. If it happens after talking to you, I'd say try not to lay it on yourself? I don't see a need to distance yourself... unless you feel a need to withdraw. If that's the case, then sure, do what you need to do.

Otherwise, I'd say, enjoy your family and take calls to the extent that you want to. As far as their not sharing medical information? I might feel hurt that they din't tell me stuff too, but as an outsider, I think it's unlikely that decision is about you at all. It may not even be a decision, just where the chips fall. I very much doubt it is supposed to be a hint for you to butt out.

take care

waves