This is something I struggle with a lot too. I have accepted the fact that my house will never really be that clean because I can't do housework and I don't want my husband to have to do everything. When I get stressed about things not being organized or the kitchen being too dirty to cook dinner I just remind myself that it's not all that important. If people want to judge me because my home is a mess that's their issue, not mine.

Not being able to go out I find harder to deal with. I don't want my husband to limit his life because of me so I encourage him to go out with friends even when I am in too much pain to go out. He's been very supportive about it, he knows my limitations and doesn't pressure me or make feel bad about not going out. I still get depressed about not being "normal", I don't think that will every fully go away. I manage to keep myself feeling well by staying busy with things I enjoy that don't cause me pain.

The important thing to remember: you don't have to live your life according to other people's expectations. There is nothing wrong with living your life the way you need to.