Hi Chase,
I think it is reasonable to want a treatment that leaves you functional. I think that is what we all want. Perhaps the neuro doc will be able to offer you something like gabapentin or Neurontin. That might help the neuropathic pain and any spasticity issues like muscle spasms or tremors. If you like the patches perhaps add Voltaren gel too.
I'm sorry that you feel the physicians are judging you based on your exterior. That's just silly.
I hope that the doc in Sept can help and yes it is a long time to wait with just lidocaine patches. Bless your heart.