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Old 07-18-2014, 03:00 AM
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Originally Posted by Living_Dazed View Post

my circle of friends and family thAt have stood by me. Many people leave. They don't know how to adjust to the new me.

I was ANGRY for a long time about that.

Now I realize it's hard for others. If everyone tried to stay in my life constantly I'd be a mess. I can't keep up like I used to.

Jenna
Thank you for sharing Jenna,

I know what you mean about people. Dare I postulate that people who stood by you share a quality that a true/valuable friend should have: unconditional support/love for you, as well as the depth and wisdom to not only understand the new you, but relate to you in a way that deepens your friendship. I believe obstacles such as our devastating injury either brings people closer or pulls them further apart. Your injury revealed you who your true friends are. I see a silver lining.

I know the anger. I am still dealing with this issue (a little bit different than yours). However, if you overcame it, you must have learned a very valuable lesson from it. How you overcame your anger is another silver lining.

You have an understanding now. This injury has humbled me. It made me realize what can be lost is not me in the truest sense. I am more compassionate/understanding towards those less fortunate. (Did you know that more than half of homeless people have a brain injury? and that over 80% of those injuries occurred before they lost their home?) I could be homeless right now...
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