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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Great Lakes area
Posts: 409
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Member
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Great Lakes area
Posts: 409
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Originally Posted by willgardner
Thank you for sharing Jenna,
I know what you mean about people. Dare I postulate that people who stood by you share a quality that a true/valuable friend should have: unconditional support/love for you, as well as the depth and wisdom to not only understand the new you, but relate to you in a way that deepens your friendship. I believe obstacles such as our devastating injury either brings people closer or pulls them further apart. Your injury revealed you who your true friends are. I see a silver lining.
I know the anger. I am still dealing with this issue (a little bit different than yours). However, if you overcame it, you must have learned a very valuable lesson from it. How you overcame your anger is another silver lining.
You have an understanding now. This injury has humbled me. It made me realize what can be lost is not me in the truest sense. I am more compassionate/understanding towards those less fortunate. (Did you know that more than half of homeless people have a brain injury? and that over 80% of those injuries occurred before they lost their home?) I could be homeless right now...
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I have given up my anger toward others. The people who have stayed have qualities in them others don't have. I don't blame anyone. I think it's very hard for a lot of people.
I am changed as u mentioned. My compassion for others has increased. I am also so much more sensitive to others tragedies. Anxiety and stress wise.
One of my dear friends took me to a beautiful quiet lunch today. I love her immensely. I am so blessed.
I hope everyone here has someone.
Jenna
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*TBI with mild to severe damage November 2012 from car crash. Stroke with hemorage & 4 clots in veins in brain Feb/Mar 2015.
*Vestibular damage, PCS, hypercusis, severe visual processing and tracking issues, short term memory loss, headaches/migraines, occipital neuralgia, cognitive issues, neurological issues, brain fog, brain fatigue when over stimulated, twitching, vertigo, neck issues, nerve issues, PTSD, personality change, Since stroke left side weakness, rage, worsening of vestibular problems, recall, speech, memory.
*Can't drive or work. Have done occupational therapy, cognitive therapy, physical therapy. Learning work arounds, and strategies to be competent in daily life. Change your attitude/perspective changes your life. As TBI survivors this is a vital part of our healing and living.
*Working on getting to know and accept the new me.
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