You've experienced so much and you must be a very strong and courageous woman.
You are a survivor.
How do we allow our children to become survivors also?
I'm not so sure, but you are having the serious conversations with your daughter, and that's important now.

Those of us who are parents all wish that our children will be well and happy and not feel alone, even when they're no longer little children and become adult children. Sometimes I think that it can take them a life time of living to understand what their parent or parents were actually teaching them or to even understand a little how much of a struggle it was to keep going, often in extreme circumstances. It might be a little cliché these days but I often think of that poem by Kahlil Gibran as I sometimes need to be reminded.
Kahlil Gibran - On Children.
http://www.katsandogz.com/onchildren.html

Thinking of you eva.