Originally Posted by Alffe

Garvey thank you for being concerned about the effect your killing yourself would have on your wife and daughter.

Our 31 year old son put a gun in his mouth when he was 31 yrs old. He left behind an 8 year old son. That son is now a grown man with children of his own. He lives miles away from us and we used to have contact with him in his growing years (we'd fly him here...etc) When he eventually married and had a son of his own he realized what he had been missing. His wife told me privately that she thinks he never had dealt with his dads suicide until he had a son of his own. He refuses to discuss suicide....says that is his way of dealing with it. Said his dad was a selfish coward and ......I am hurt all over again to think that I'll never get to meet my two great grandchildren or hug my grandson again. I do not feel that I would be welcome in their home...ever!!

I understand that he has his own issues with losing his dad that way...but by not talking about his feelings, his own children will be affected.

And our son Michael was a wonderful person and loved his son more than he will ever know.

And that is why you don't kill yourself.