so sorry that happened to you :/

i can certainly relate to the difficulties.. especially when it comes to actions and reactions. sometimes people's expectations are already hardwired because of societal influences. when those expectations are not met, it causes friction. but it's overcoming those expectations and not being so tightly wound when it comes to them, being a little more easy-going and understanding. i hope your ex at least learned that much, regardless of the distance factor. those things come with the territory of loving someone with brain traumas. i've definitely learned that so far.

i hope you don't let the PCS stop you from loving. nothing heals better than that and there are plenty of us out there who'd be more than happy to supply it.